I'm a very emotional and passionate person.
The emotional side of me has it's undesirable affects, like reactions to high-stress situations, both personally and professionally. For example, how long will my significant other put up with my emotionally-charged reactions? On another note, do my emotionally-charged flare-ups resonate with my colleagues putting me in a position where I will be disrespected if I (somehow) advance to the next level in my career?
The passionate side of me turns everything into a soap-opera, despite the fact that I claim to be drama-free. This holds true in both my personal and professional life. It's only exacerbated by my
I've got to learn how to improve my self-control. The first step I've taken is making a list of ways that I feel I exercise self-control daily and ways that I don't. The don't list quickly surpassed the number of the do list.
While I was making this list I watched (listened-to) a TEDx Talk about self-control featuring Dan Ariely. The talk offered a few ways to tackle self-control, such as reward-substitution, self-control contracts and more, for ways to accomplish behavior modification.
Do I think people can change? Yes, but only if they're willing to change. I thoroughly enjoyed Psychology courses, but I rarely use what I learned on myself, or at least not as much as I could.
Part of using psychology on yourself is having people (friends, family, colleagues and bosses) who will provide you with truly constructive-criticism. Acceptance of constructive criticism is one area where you can exercise self-control. I'm actually very accepting to the point where I want people to tell me so I can improve. I've always felt an outsider's perspective is necessary for growth.
I'm no expert on self-control after watching one TEDx Talk, but I've got a few resources to point me in the right direction. Most of all, I know that I lack self-control in certain situations. I know what those situations are. Delving into it, will help me modify my behaviors one little bit at a time.
This will not be an overnight process. I recognize that; and if self-control is something you're looking to improve, you should, too.
The start of this self-improvement process will begin with keeping a journal of my successes and failures of how I exercise self-control each day and where I need improvement.
I've also gathered a small list of reading from the web. I hope this will help you!
- Self-control quotes
- A Beginner's Guide to Irrational Behavior
- Leadership Self-Control – Are You About to Lose It?
- Exceptional Leaders Exhibit Self-Control
- Leadership Qualities: Self Control
I'd love to hear your thoughts!